Rings came to us from ancient times, symbolizing devotion to one person. For example, in Ancient Egypt they believed that the ring finger was directly connected to the heart. It was there that the first marriage with the exchange of rings was recorded about 5,000 years ago. In China, they believe that the fourth finger on the hand is responsible for sexuality, so it is customary to remove jewelry from it at night. In the chronicles of Ancient Rome there are references to the constant wearing of a symbol of marriage.
Since time immemorial, a ring with a closed shape has carried the glory of a magical attribute that accumulates energy. There is still a sign that you should not let someone try on your jewelry, as this will bring discord to the family. The loss of an attribute of married life symbolizes scandals, even divorce.
The Jews have a different tradition: their brides wear rings on their index fingers, as they are led along the lines when reading the Torah.
From a psychological point of view, we can talk with confidence about associations.It will always remind you of the person who gave it and put it on their finger and under what circumstances. One type of decoration brings back all the good and bad memories, which is why the next question arises so urgently.
What to do with an engagement ring after a divorce?
Many superstitions speak about the inadmissibility of many logical actions: give away, throw away, remake. If you move away from the signs and look at the problem from a psychological point of view, the situation will sparkle with new colors, because the decoration carries the burden of memories: children, history, relationships, friendship, shared secrets, joint travel, discoveries, problems, quarrels. Any breakup is like an open wound, especially when you are not internally ready to let go of your ex-husband or wife. Therefore, it is not recommended to keep something that serves as a vivid reminder of your former married life.
Four universal options:
- Melt it down into neutral jewelry and give it new meaning.
- Take it to a pawnshop and buy another item that has nothing to do with your previous life.
- Remove it as far away as possible so that it doesn’t catch your eye for a while. Perhaps in a year or two it will find another use.
- Return to the person who gave it.
Some people believe that completely getting rid of a ring spoils karma and leads to failure in new relationships, so it is not easy for them to get rid of jewelry and negative emotions. Together with the attributes of a broken marriage, they often store the entire heavy burden of emotions, which threatens to lead to loneliness.
What should a woman do?
After a divorce, women can continue to wear the ring, but then they need to change the location and move it to the fourth finger of the left hand. Some wives give them to their ex-husbands, because they bought them. But what if he gives a ring to his new beloved? Of course, if she believes in omens, she will refuse, since it is a symbol of failure and discord. And if not? Over time, an item accumulates the energy of its owner; there is no need to waste your power; it is better to keep the jewelry for yourself.
What should a man do?
What you don’t need to do is give wedding rings to other women, in which case there is every chance of remaining at the extinguished family hearth again.
Psychologists recommend destroying a thing, as this is a kind of rite of cleansing of old emotions. Alternatively, you can sell it or take it to a pawn shop.
Many religious people, in the event of a sale, advise donating the money received to charity. For example, donate to an orphanage, help animal shelters, or use this money to donate things to a low-income family.
If a wedding ring is a family heirloom, what then?
In this case, the answer is clear: return it to the family where it was kept! In case of divorce, family heirlooms are always returned to the family where they were kept. An item that has been passed down from generation to generation should remain in its own family. She keeps the memory of other people's ancestors. Therefore, in case of non-return, the signs indicate imminent misfortune for the one who did not want to return the jewelry.
Signs and beliefs about wedding rings and divorce
- If just the sight of it brings suffering, then it is better to remove it and not touch it. For example, wrap it in a scarf and take it to the pantry.
- You cannot sell it, as it will be damaged.
- You can’t buy someone else’s jewelry after a divorce; your life won’t work out.
- You are allowed to wear what is inherited; it will not harm you in any way.
- It cannot be melted down and donated. Even after remodeling, misfortune and grief can be passed on to the new owners.
From the signs it is clear that they are influenced by human grief and emotional anguish after a painful separation. In the end, everyone decides for themselves what is best to do with their wedding ring. The main thing is that peace comes to your soul, and new joys and meetings await you ahead.
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