Losing something is an unpleasant thing, and it doesn’t matter whether you lost some trinket or your apartment keys or phone. You have been blaming yourself for a long time for your inattention and absent-mindedness. Then you focus and promise yourself that you will never lose anything again. But a month later you cannot find that same red T-shirt that was always in sight, hanging right here!
It all seems like an accident to you, you justify it with your absent-mindedness and forgetfulness, but your brain thinks completely differently.
How your brain specifically “throws away” unnecessary things
You can be a very serious business person who has everything under control and has hundreds of people under his command, but one day you simply forget your wallet in a cafe. How does this happen?
The answer to the question was given by the world famous Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud. In his opinion, absent-mindedness, forgetfulness — unconscious defense against negative emotions.
Let's consider the example of a forgotten wallet. Yes, perhaps you are a big boss; it’s a sin to complain about your income.But what is this money worth? Constant hassle, lack of sleep, poor health, lack of free time, conflicts with family. Your brain sees money or a wallet as the culprit for all these problems. By unobtrusively “throwing” him out of your life, he gives you a hint that it’s time to change something.
After another closet audit, suddenly you couldn’t find your skinny jeans? Even though they were uncomfortable, you wore them and your friends complimented them. How can we manage without them now? Say thank you to your brain. He decided that the discomfort is not even worth the approving opinion of society, and therefore your jeans are now lost somewhere.
Autumn is the time of rain, and therefore you often need to carry an umbrella with you. So you're getting ready for work, looking for an umbrella, but it's nowhere to be found. Here your subconscious builds the following chain:- I've been carrying an umbrella all week, it's very inconvenient.
- Rain was forecast all week, but it still didn't come.
- I’ll forget my umbrella on the subway, I don’t want to carry it around all day.
This is how we unconsciously protect ourselves from everything bad. So the next time you lose something, take a deeper look at the issue. Perhaps you did everything to “throw away” this thing along with the emotions it brought into your life.
It’s better to consult a psychologist to help you deal with life’s problems.
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