Why did my husband ask me not to wear shapewear anymore?

It’s been 2 years since my second birth, and my figure has undergone unpleasant changes in the abdomen and sides.

In general, everything is not bad at all, but this part stubbornly refuses to go away, although I didn’t really try to address this issue. I unsystematically pump up my abs and do planks, but this is clearly not enough.

The story of how we were invited to a wedding

So, over the past 5 years, this is the first social appearance for our family. A very serious, magnificent and big celebration at the in-laws' place. I really didn’t want to lose face, but to look stunning as before. Therefore, without thinking twice, when choosing a dress, I also took care of my figure, or rather, its shortcomings: I bought shapewear for problem areas. Even stars wear such underwear, so why shouldn’t I try it?

Of course it worked. No belly, no sides, my fragile waist returned. I felt like a goddess. My husband’s eyes were burning, I saw how he looked at me - as before, even before the birth of the child.It was a wonderful holiday, with a lot of different emotions: we cried, laughed, were touched, and at night everything was magical, like it had not been for a long time.

But this morning, at breakfast, I detected some note of awkwardness on my husband’s part. He ate quickly, literally without looking up at me, talked while looking into his plate or cup, kissed me on the cheek and flew off to work. In the evening he returned as if nothing had happened, everything went as usual and I let go of this moment. But after a couple of days he himself admitted that he was worried.

My husband asked me not to wear shapewear anymore, because it’s a lie. He really liked the way I looked, but he understood that in reality everything was not like that. And when I undressed, my sides fell again and my stomach fell out. We agreed that we would figure out how to allocate time and money for me to go to the gym, so that I would become truly slim, and not artificially, for a while.

I think he's right, but while he’s at work, and I’m going with the kids to the store or for a walk, I put on a drawstring and imagine that I’m already like this, slender and graceful, and not blurry and ugly.

Young ladies, what do you think, is it worth “deceiving” yourself and your man like this?