How do insecure people dress?

There is a theory in psychology according to which we identify ourselves with clothes. This idea is in demand both in scientific and bohemian circles. Writers, artists and musicians not only look special, but also reflect in their creativity the connection between the wardrobe and the inner world of its owner. An example of such a relationship is “a man in a case.” How not to become the second Chekhov Belikov? Learn to notice dangerous impulses in yourself and your loved ones.

How to “see” someone who is not confident in himself? We evaluate clothes

In order not to “miss” your conclusions, do not forget to evaluate a specific person in different situations and without interruption from what is happening. So, you shouldn’t throw tomatoes at a cute plump woman who, in 40-degree heat and in a resort area, wears a sundress.

The flowing silhouette and light fabric help the “non-southerner” to withstand the unusually high air temperature. However, If in your everyday wardrobe 75% of things are shapeless, dangling “duvet covers,” then it’s time to sound the alarm and start taking actions aimed at increasing self-esteem.

Things that hide your figure

Belikov's story. He was afraid of absolutely everything, was not confident in his ability to survive the slightest changes in the weather or in life, so he “chained” himself in a shell of clothes. It was the hero's shield and his amulet, the best friend and companion of obsessive-compulsive disorder. He needed external protection more than communication or family, since the internal protective system was not strong enough.

Important! Inner weakness, fearfulness and uncertainty - this is what makes us look for support in clothing.

Long, voluminous, shapeless, stretched things

There are professions whose representatives are considered invisible. They are not remembered, they are not noticed until something out of the ordinary happens. And there are people who are inconspicuous by themselves, and not due to official circumstances. No, they don’t put much effort into their facelessness, they don’t play spies or ninjas. They somehow naturally manage to be unmemorable, colorless. And usually such people like to wear something that doesn’t catch the eye: inexpressive sweaters, jeans of an inconspicuous shade, T-shirts that do not allow strangers to notice your figure.

Important! You need to have certain inner strengths not to be afraid to express yourself. It’s much easier to blend in with the gray colors and become part of the decor. If they forget about you as soon as they stop looking at you, then they will never demand anything, and you will not have to make any effort to comply.

The endless undressing of overweight people is interpreted a little differently. Usually women with curvy figures gravitate towards this. Because of their build, they are confident that they are constantly “under the gun” of other people.. To get rid of other people's close attention and protect yourself from possible condemnation, clothes without strict lines are used. This results in the following diagram:

• rejection of your own body makes you think that everyone around you doesn’t accept it either, and, perhaps, laughs at being fat (sometimes this is an absolute delusion);
• in order to stop being the center of attention and protect himself from ridicule, a person seeks protection and support from clothing, which, in his opinion, masks all problem areas;
• he gets used to hiding his shortcomings and ceases to regret that, along with the features of the body that require correction, the dignity of the figure disappears from view;
• due to the fact that pleasant features of appearance are never emphasized, a woman begins to forget about their presence, but the loose clothing reminds her every second of her shortcomings.

A woman who does not remember the advantages of her figure, but constantly keeps in front of her and on herself a reminder of the body features that require correction, productively cultivates complexes in herself. As a result, obsessive thoughts like “everyone is looking at me, they are laughing at me” are fixed, like shapeless clothes in the wardrobe.

Important! There must be moderation in everything. Don't let yourself fall into a vicious cycle where clothes become the same, remind you of something bad, or feed self-doubt.

Same type things

Trying something new is taking risks.But where can you find the courage to experiment if you are ashamed of yourself or have spent your whole life blending in with the crowd so as not to be noticed and this does not lead to failure? It is much safer not to leave the zone of facelessness, to move in one direction, to walk along the beaten path and tested many times.

Dark colors so as not to stand out

Bright colors, rich colors, pure and deep shades catch the eye. Those around you unintentionally, reflexively fix their gaze on a person who is dressed in colorful clothes, or at least ones that simply stand out in color. well and fade and grayness allow you to be invisible. Outsiders will not remember either the owner of such a wardrobe or the items themselves from which the ensemble was made. This “spy” will be able to avoid not only excessive, but also any attention at all, which means he will save himself from unnecessary worries and protect himself from an allegedly possible failure.

Important! Psychologists have identified colors that indicate low self-esteem. Here they are: light yellow, gray, green-brown, blue-gray.

Another point is depersonalization using a black and white dress code. Behind the form one cannot see the person, his experiences or inner world. For those around him, he turns into a “white collar worker” or “office plankton” - into one of millions of exactly the same subjects.

Multi-layer sets from old clothes

Fear of the new, dissatisfaction with changes in figure, longing for the past - this is what is hidden behind the desire to wear clothes that are many years old. At the same time, many women who have given up on themselves like to hide behind the fact that their husband, children or parents need a new wardrobe much more than they themselves. This position once again emphasizes one’s own unimportance and worthlessness.

Important! If a mother doesn’t love herself and looks bad, will her child feel good next to her? Or will he begin to be ashamed of his parent and fragile family relationships will develop a deep crack?

Clothing that does not suit an imperfect figure

The other side of the coin, symbolizing situations in which people wear ill-fitting clothes to hide their attitude towards themselves. Some people try their best to hide their body features, while others hope to gain self-confidence by showing off imperfections. Thus, they tell the whole world that they have no complexes. But if you do not have internal dissatisfaction with yourself and do not suffer from insecurity, then why deliberately and ostentatiously demonstrate their possible cause?

Unfashionable shoes

Shoes are one of the top three things that allow you to evaluate a man’s wealth and a woman’s taste. But sometimes dusty shoes do not indicate a lack of a car, and an out-of-fashion sock does not indicate disorientation in trends. It’s just that shoes, like clothes, demonstrate a person’s inner world. To paraphrase Bulgakov, then The problem is not in the broken heels or the square shape of the toe, the problem is in the head.

The radical opposite: all the trendy bright fashion items - at once!

To begin with, let us clarify that wearing something that is inappropriate for a particular person, but is among trends or worn to imitate an idol, may be a sign of internal problems or contradictions. In a fashion magazine or on the page of an online store there was a “wow”, but in reality the clothes did not fit the figure or spoiled it, but the person continues to use the item of clothing? There are three options:

• he sees in front of him not reality, but a glossy picture (the one where the item was worn by a photoshopped celebrity or a model no less heavily altered by filters and the right angle) and behind this picture he is not able to see himself;
• wears it in order to feed their own complexes (some people like to be victims, while others enjoy spoiling and disfiguring themselves);
• he needs to find a tool that will allow him to demonstrate his financial situation to those around him, and through this he will be able to rise at least a little in his own eyes and in the eyes of strangers.

The situation is even more complicated in case of lack of sense of proportion. If a person wears exclusively flashy branded items, complementing them with provocative but expensive paraphernalia, then the result is not a bold and fashionable image, but a caricature. The most polite epithets for which are “parrot”, “expensive”, “expensive-rich”. These definitions clearly demonstrate the attitude of others towards such a person.

Outsiders consider him a poser who strives to:

• demonstrate your financial capabilities;
• beg attention from the crowd (namely, beg, not attract);
• behind bright sparkles, acidic colors and numerous big names on clothing labels, hide your own insignificance, dullness or weakness.

This is not afraid of excessive shocking, the possibility of being branded as a person without taste or appearing in a discordant look. Vice versa, These manifestations accompanying the lack of measures worry the “fashionist”’s blood. He receives the emotions that he so lacks.

With all this it is necessary to distinguish people who wear exclusively luxury clothes and neglect democratic wardrobe items, but do it skillfully and without excesses, from those who create ensembles according to the same principle by which gypsies dress. Also, you should not look for any subtext in the stage images of celebrities practicing “magpie” shocking. It's part of their job.